As Mrs. Smith would say.....312
After some arm twisting on my part and four year partying hiatus on
his part (I guess my graduation party made a impression on him), my little
brother will be join us for the weekend of September 9th.....
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That night comes to mind....
"It's your first time????...lol, well....on your knees...and open your mouth..."
HAHAHAAHA
PEPERMENT PATTY People, and if you haven't done it right, then you haven't lived...
God I hope I'm in town. Conference that weekend. Trying to arrange outs....
PS. update to come. too busy trying to be Sorority of the Year again, for the 4th time....no pressure right?
PPS. Mr. Boots...that soldier is MIA...too bad. I liked him...
a week in El Paso will make me forget, and if the week doesn't well...friday night will....
pray that i come home with my eyes.
love ya, miss me.
Some poetry...
An old friend and his zealous interpretation of life in the military. All rights, privalledges, copywrites to such a beautiful work, are his exclusively and therefore should not be duplicated. :)
Speaking of Poetry: If you didn't know I'm in to slam, well you probably don't know me...but here's one of my favorites. Thought I'd share.
http://www.riverdeep.net/current/2001/01/012901_m1_slam.jhtml#slam02
Serendipitous Aftermath
There is a paradise that can be found
A better life to bring us round
And all we really need to do
Is see the world like lovers do
I want to take it easy, take it slow
To catch a fire and let it go
I want to give myself to you
So we can live like lovers do
Like lovers do, I want to feel that way
Like lovers do, they lose themselves for days
And I need to feel that way
I can hear you thinking what I feel
I know that what we've got is real
And all we need to get us through
Is just to live like lovers do
Like lovers do, I want to feel that way
Like lovers do, they lose themselves for days
And I need to feel, I need to feel that way
Give me strength to give myself to you
Like lovers, lovers do
Why your woman would cheat on you
By Elvina Nawaguna
When a man cheats, it is ok. But when a woman cheats, it is an
abomination! Society has made it that way. But still it happens.
Tales of women having affairs with houseboys, or the milkmen are not
new. According to Ruth Huston, author of Is he cheating on you?, men
cheat for sexual reason; women cheat for emotional reasons.
BettyTibaleka of Healing Talk counselling services says women are
emotional beings and if the man is not emotionally involved in her
life, she becomes vulnerable to other men, who may do things that
her partner doesn't. "It is not just about care when you are in bed,
but when you are out of bed. It is about that closeness that remains
even when your bodies are separated," Tibaleka explains.
Tibaleka also says many women cheat for revenge. Because the husband
is having an affair, many women resort to having one to get back at
him.
Tim Lwanga of Kadic hospital Nakulabye says this may be a way of
dealing with her anger, behind which are multiple feelings like
betrayal, mistrust, hurt and feelings of inadequacy.
Lwanga says that sexual incompatibility can drive a woman to have an
affair, especially if her husband is weak sexually and does nothing
to rectify the problem.
Women cheat because they want to communicate. "If you always degrade
her, she will go out to prove her worth to both her husband and
herself," Tibaleka explains. Such a woman is likely to cheat with a
man who compliments her and builds her self-esteem.
Distance many times leads married people to cheat. If the man is
always away on say, business trips and is never around for his wife,
the chances of cheating are high.
At the same time, proximity and companionship with other men like
workmates increase the chances of cheating. Juliet, a mother of four
who is currently running an extramarital affair blames it on the
fact that her husband is never at home.
"I also have needs and if someone is willing to be there for me, why
not?" she says.
According to Lwanga, marital problems which make the home and
marriage constantly strained may also cause the wife to give in to
another man who seems to care about her emotionally, especially if
he is within easy reach.
Lwanga also says that because of poverty, coupled with other
problems in the relationship, a woman may give in to another man who
may be willing to meet her needs.
Still, cheating may be a result of one's personality. "Some women,
though married, may remain jumpy as part of their personalities,"
Lwanga says. This could be routed in their upbringing or some
complex and bizarre behaviour or part of habit formation. It may
also be due to peer pressure; search for adventure or the husband's
physical or mental disability resulting from accidents, alcohol or
mental illness.
However, Tibaleka insists that above all, it is lack of commitment
that makes people cheat on their spouses. "When you are not
committed, all these things will come and sway you," she says. She
says that everything can be worked out if there is commitment.
Signs that she is seeing another man:
These may not be conclusive, but coupled with other signs may be an
indicator.
Tibaleka says that when she is cheating, the likelihood of being
happier are higher, unless she is feeling guilty or is not yet
enjoying the other relationship.
Sudden unexplained gifts may also be a warning sign. Her routine may
also change.
She starts coming home late and becomes protective of her mobile
phone and phone calls.
Sometimes her attitude may also change and she starts speaking
despicably to her husband.
Her sense of style and dress may also suddenly change. "It all comes
from the value that the other person had added to her," she
explains.
Tibaleka however, says that men can prevent their women from
cheating. "Love her, take care of her. Touch her, buy her small
gifts and reassure her of your love," she says.
Go out of your way to find what makes her happy and respond to it.
The key to this is communication. Sometimes, women just need to be
talked to and listened to, even when it seems like nothing serious.
Some counsellors can also help to administer a love language test.
Call her in the middle of the day to say, "I love you".
Let her know that you are proud of her and show it.
Bring her a flower when you return from work.
Compliment her and do things to raise her self worth.
Show appreciation for her and the things she does.
Every now and then, surprise her with very personal gifts that she
will be the only one to use. Don't give her source pans or a set of
cups. These are general household items that you are expected to
buy.
Show interest in her life and what she does.
Help her out with her household tasks and do for her something that
she could have done by herself.
Date her like you used to when you were still chasing her. Go some
place with her and do the things you both like doing.
Hug her frequently, especially if she is feeling down or depressed.
Just hold her, no lectures or advice.
National Directors as Vogons...
The proof of the non-existence of God, caused by the Babel fish: http://http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Babel_fish
(wikipedia.org article)
* The Hitchikers' Guide to the Galaxy, pg 52
THE Director will be indispose....
No honestly, Prophet, Pick your days, cuz I am not going to be wasted an entire week.
Wednesday night I'm busy, and Sunday night I'm busy,....National Buisness stuff...but, if you want you got me thursday, friday and saturday....as fun nights. just an FYI
Thats me...I don't know about the rest of the crew...and well, I'm flexible, just give me the night, and i'll make it work. Afterall, you're only in town one week!!!!
Booo. but. what oh what shall we do???? hmmmmm.
you know I'll be in Hartford CT on the 19th of Aug., will you be back by then? how close is that to Richmond? hmmmm....not that I'd have any free time, but just curious.
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In other news, I am doing a fantastic job for my sorority, if i do say so my self.
No friends, busy friends, out-of-state friends, leave you with a lot of time on your hands to answer emaikls, blog, and do actual work....hmmmm
Mr. Boots is not dead...lets all aplaud. (No really, BOYS be nice, I still like this one)
--He's smart, he's nice, and he's far far away....what every girl wants...
when shes a national director and trying very hard to get into law school :)
*sigh, so yeah, he IM'd. no call like I'd hope, but he's busy...or so he says... yes yes, getting ready for deployment,....I really wish i could be like, uh huh, sure...but I can't.
Really there should be a chapter in my new bible "He's just not that into you"...
on guys going on deployment....
My letter to Greg (the author) would be the following: (P, this one is for you)
Dear Greg,
I met this guy three weeks ago. He's in the Army and stationed a milion miles away, so when I met him I knew he was on leave, and that nothing would happen. Except stuff did happen; like, me falling completely for him. He's incredibly smart, can be completely sensitive, and all and all passionate about me. We even contimplated flying me out to his base just so I could see him before he left the county...which leads us to that...Theres one thing Greg, he's headed off for deployment. This means he wants nothing to do with a long term relationship as he has a fear of dying and doesn't want me stop my life to wait for him as he heads off to war. I assured him I wouldn't wait and we agreed to be "just freinds," should something further develop, we would take it from there...You see Greg, I really like this arrangement as I have an incredibly busy schedule and never have any time for a real relationship myself. I have regular guys I "hang out" with, but as per the book, we all know that that's not going anywhere...and I've been honest with myself, I don't know if this will be going anywhere either. But-- should all the standard "He's just not that into you rules" apply when dating a man who's about to be shipped off to war?
I mean, he is in the Army. He doesn't know when he can call, or write, or anything. How exactly can I hold him up to the high standards we've set, when I know he's incapable of meeting them due to know fault of his own? Am I completely settling for what works for me right now Greg, or should I stop wasting my long distance minutes as settle for the fact that "he's just not that into me?"
Ha ha, maybe right?...I should submit this and see if I get a response. I'd die laughing.
Even if Greg told me I was an idiot for answering my phone.
Well, thats me...I'm off to clean my room, bug me profusely, I'm on vacation :)
Whispers, from my LS8
Whispers
The
man whispered, "God, speak to me"
and
a meadowlark
sang.
But,
the man did not
hear.
So
the man yelled, "God, speak to
me"
and
the thunder rolled across the
sky.
But,
the man did not
listen.
The
man looked around and
said,
"God
let me see
you."
And
a star shined
brightly.
But
the man did not
see.
And,
the man
shouted,
"God
show me a
miracle."
And,
a life was
born.
But,
the man did not
notice.
So,
the man cried out in
despair,
"Touch
me God, and let me know you are
here."
Whereupon,
God reached down and touched the
man.
But,
the man brushed the butterfly away
.
and
walked on.
I
found this to be a great reminder that
God
is
always around us in the little and simple
things
that
we take for granted ... even in our electronic
age
So
I would like to add one
more:
The
man cried,
"God,
I need your
help!"
And
an e-mail arrived reaching
out
with
good news and
encouragement.
But,
the man deleted it and continued crying
..........
Don't
miss out on a
blessing
because
it isn't packaged the way that you
expect.
My
instructions were to send this to
people
that
I wanted God to bless
and
I picked you. Won't you please pass this
to people you want to be
blessed.
Expect
the
unexpected...
Have
A Happy Day!